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Adam's Story

To explain this story I have to go all the way back. My family had always hidden who my dad was so I just assumed my mixed half siblings’ dad was the same as mine. At young ages you don’t see color, in a modern way to put it, so I never saw a problem with it. The way I found out about my dad was my aunt. She had been drinking all day and just let everything go. I found out his name and minor details about him, needless to say it hurt to hear everything from her. 

Everything was dropped until about a year ago when I told my mom I was ready to find him. She searched through Facebook and we found out he doesn’t have one, but she dug deeper and found his trucking company he owned. Eventually we got his phone number, I ended up texting him while I was on my anti-depression medication. The medication didn’t help me in anyway but it gave me a sliver of courage. It wasn’t worth it though. He brushed me off for 5 months, I let my feelings out multiple times to just be ignored. I went to ask him a question and found out he changed his number. I felt helpless, but my mom who somehow isn’t an FBI agent found his new number. 

I asked him if his family knew about me and immediately he answered no. That was a bombshell for me because it shows that he doesn’t care in anyway. I wanted some kind of response so I went to trigger his anger. I had found out he had other children that were 17 and 14 years old, I am in between those ages which means that his wife was cheated on. So since this COVID-19 situation is happening I texted him telling him and his 17 year old and 14 year old stay safe, the response I got back was “u b safe also”. That wasn’t the response I wanted. I found his daughter on Facebook and requested her but nothing came of that. So I went through a couple other social media platforms and found nothing until I got to Snapchat. 

I started typing in her name in with random combinations that people commonly use on Snapchat. That led me to adding and 4 different people with the same name. I had extreme luck because the first and only person that added me back turned out to be my half sister. After a few questions to make sure we had the same dad I got a chance to ask some questions. I found out I have 3 half siblings from my dad after already knowing I have 3 from my mom. I now know I have 4 half sisters and 2 half brothers. My half sister told me that my dad divorced his wife a long time ago, which explained why they invited me to stay with them when I go up to meet them during the summer. They are so kind to be offering everything they have when I just showed up in their lives. 


I learned during the trip that chances are I’ll probably never end up meeting him and honestly it’s okay. He is still claiming that I’m not his even though we look identical in high school. I found my sister Jacey and I’m okay leaving it that way. She is absolutely amazing. 

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